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I AM A ROCK, I AM AN..

In this world there are all types of people with unique personalities. In our childhood to adulthood, different people have different views about relationship they develop. It may be of short terms, long terms, polygamous, strict monogamous, different sexual orientation, and lots more. In our India it’s more a fad in our young generation to be in a relationship. Just like it’s must to use instagram and snapchat apps in your smartphone for peer pressure and social status.

See there is a thing called individuality, every person has special USP until people try to make them like one. It’s specially seen in friends circles and peers where most of the decision even of life is made by the group. Want to go some new pub?, yes cool! Want a joint, yes! My best friend made a boyfriend/girlfriend, so cool! I also want someone to be with me, otherwise I will be forever alone, dork, nerdy or what else to get hashtagged on. A young mind is full of insecurities and excitement to be cool and popular among pals.

Beyond all the majority of people, there are some people live different life, they have different views and ideas in life. Some are career oriented, don’t have priorities, some are orthodox and traditional-family oriented, some just are asexual like that, some have extreme social anxiety and confidence to ask someone on date, and some don’t even believe in the meaning of romantic relationship like Sherlock. But that’s cool also! People need to understand such tribe, their personal decision and preference even as their close friend or relatives.

There are people who just blessed with so cheerful happening life that don’t feel alone at all. They can’t see they are incomplete without someone. Call them narcissist, insult them with you’re no man enough, gay/lesbo, weirdo but this is how they are in their comfort zone. A life where satisfaction without doubts are more valuable than pleasing others, trying to show so called happiness on facebook PDA pics.

A single person can love himself/herself for no reason. Some people love independence and managing everything by their own pretty well, even better than people in couples living on the same roof. They can be far less dependable on others, thanks to so many options now available. Solo tripping pleasure, a bundle to books to read with a hot cup of coffee or have good time with true friends who are close to our life.

Around 3 years of years ago some guy asked on quora Is it really important to have a girlfriend in life? I replied “Stop looking for others, especially women, to make you happy – you don’t need them. Men all over the world waste time trying to find happiness in everything except themselves. When you’re happy on your own, others will naturally want to be around you.”

I love this quote from the movie Dear Zindagi where Alia’s character ask the meaning of perfect relationship with Shahrukh’s, where he answers: “Why one special relationship? Life has different feelings and emotions like in different tastes of sharing sam’e music, gossip, intellectual etc. It’s impossible to put all the load on a single relationship.