Happiness

I AM A ROCK, I AM AN..

In this world there are all types of people with unique personalities. In our childhood to adulthood, different people have different views about relationship they develop. It may be of short terms, long terms, polygamous, strict monogamous, different sexual orientation, and lots more. In our India it’s more a fad in our young generation to be in a relationship. Just like it’s must to use instagram and snapchat apps in your smartphone for peer pressure and social status.

See there is a thing called individuality, every person has special USP until people try to make them like one. It’s specially seen in friends circles and peers where most of the decision even of life is made by the group. Want to go some new pub?, yes cool! Want a joint, yes! My best friend made a boyfriend/girlfriend, so cool! I also want someone to be with me, otherwise I will be forever alone, dork, nerdy or what else to get hashtagged on. A young mind is full of insecurities and excitement to be cool and popular among pals.

Beyond all the majority of people, there are some people live different life, they have different views and ideas in life. Some are career oriented, don’t have priorities, some are orthodox and traditional-family oriented, some just are asexual like that, some have extreme social anxiety and confidence to ask someone on date, and some don’t even believe in the meaning of romantic relationship like Sherlock. But that’s cool also! People need to understand such tribe, their personal decision and preference even as their close friend or relatives.

There are people who just blessed with so cheerful happening life that don’t feel alone at all. They can’t see they are incomplete without someone. Call them narcissist, insult them with you’re no man enough, gay/lesbo, weirdo but this is how they are in their comfort zone. A life where satisfaction without doubts are more valuable than pleasing others, trying to show so called happiness on facebook PDA pics.

A single person can love himself/herself for no reason. Some people love independence and managing everything by their own pretty well, even better than people in couples living on the same roof. They can be far less dependable on others, thanks to so many options now available. Solo tripping pleasure, a bundle to books to read with a hot cup of coffee or have good time with true friends who are close to our life.

Around 3 years of years ago some guy asked on quora Is it really important to have a girlfriend in life? I replied “Stop looking for others, especially women, to make you happy – you don’t need them. Men all over the world waste time trying to find happiness in everything except themselves. When you’re happy on your own, others will naturally want to be around you.”

I love this quote from the movie Dear Zindagi where Alia’s character ask the meaning of perfect relationship with Shahrukh’s, where he answers: “Why one special relationship? Life has different feelings and emotions like in different tastes of sharing sam’e music, gossip, intellectual etc. It’s impossible to put all the load on a single relationship.

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Perfection is Boring

A man would do nothing if he waited until he could do it so well that no one could find fault. ~ John Henry Newman

There is nothing called perfection for humans. Those humans who keep on learning from the day they come out from womb and till the day they die. Yes! even death is something new for their experience. They keep learning everything, they find new ways of failing. Isn’t it?

Humans are the most weird organism. They are just afraid of showing their worries and sadness. There is always this need to make a face or strike a pose. It is all so superficial. They are not comfortable for something but they pretend like everything is fine for no reason. May be they just don’t want to disclose their self insecurities or don’t want to share to make them feel bad. It’s just perspective. This is how they try to frame so called their perfect biopic.

They are like feeling so unhappy but surrounded by everything they really need. They don’t understand life is like a game of puzzle where you need to frame everything by your own imaginary picture. People are like pieces. There are zillion of possibilities. You just see them everyday, over and over again. You can make picture of luminescence of joy, where the pursuit of happiness ends with the end of rainbow. Everything is right behind them but they just can’t figure it out.

They are like feeling so alone but living in a big apartment full of people whom they never talk. Want to say something to someone but can not say for no reasons. They all need someone for their help and support. They are meant to be like can do everything alone but still it’s not practical for anyone. You need some delivery boy to bring your pizza when you’re tired from all your monotonous work and don’t want to cook anything in the kitchen.

They are just programmed to be a something called perfection. Life by many means is very simple smooth road without any destination but milestones that we mark for ourselves. But a smooth road is always boring to drive. They need thrills to make us feel we are alive. They need pot holes on our way. This is how they all get damaged. This is so blaspheme.

For a woman her beauty is what everyone defines. No matter what skills she have but without her beauty she is defined to be as incomplete personality. But still she is just a human. Her face, her skin is not immortal like her beautiful soul. She keep changes from her body every tick-tock. Cells are dividing, regenerating, mitosis-meiosis is happening. She is not in the same body as she was in 7 years before.

Her mirror sings:
Now I am a lake. A woman bends over me,
Searching my reaches for what she really is.
Then she turns to those liars, the candles or the moon.
I see her back, and reflect it faithfully.
She rewards me with tears and an agitation of hands.

Her man sings:
Ring the bells that still can ring
Forget your perfect offering.
There is a crack in everything,
That’s how the light gets in.

For him her so called flaws are just the way he loves her everyday for no reason. Because out of all the flaws he is stumbled on, it’s the hardest one to focus on. This is how life goes by. There should be no fear. It’s the rule of nature.
It’s always a point of view and here everything little thing is subjective. It’s simply want you want to see. It can be accidental or absolutely irrelevant for someone. There are always some messages to be ignored. It’s all about the prospective. They take it for fun, ignore it or take it so seriously.

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